Not feeling good enough?....
- verytherapycounsel
- Jan 27
- 3 min read
Not feeling good enough? 🌱
There’s a quiet belief many people carry into therapy — often without even realising it.
“I’ll be enough when I’m calmer.”“ I’ll be enough when I’m healed.” “I’ll be enough when I stop feeling this way.”
If any of that feels familiar, you’re not alone 💛 And I want to gently say this upfront:
You are already enough — even here, even now.
Not when you’re fixed. Not when you’re braver, quieter, thinner, happier, or more productive. But now.
Where the Feeling of “Not Enough” Comes From 🧠
That sense of never quite measuring up doesn’t appear out of nowhere.
It often grows from:
Early experiences where your needs weren’t fully met
Being praised for what you did, not who you were
Trauma, loss, or prolonged anxiety
Growing up needing to be “the strong one”
Living in a world that constantly asks for more
Over time, your nervous system learns a powerful message:
I need to change to be safe, loved, or accepted.
So you try harder. You push through. You criticise yourself. You wait for the day you’ll finally feel “good enough.”
But that day keeps moving further away 😔
Being Enough Doesn’t Mean Being Perfect ✨
This is where people often get stuck.
Being enough doesn’t mean:
You don’t struggle
You don’t feel anxious or overwhelmed
You don’t want to grow or change
It means something much kinder.
It means your worth is not dependent on your progress.
You can be anxious and enough. You can be grieving and enough. You can be unsure, tired, or scared and still deeply worthy of care.
Therapy isn’t about turning you into a better version of yourself. It’s about helping you come home to who you already are 🤍
Why “Trying Harder” Rarely Works 🌪️
Many of my clients come to therapy exhausted.
They’ve read the books. They’ve tried the techniques. They’ve told themselves to “just be positive” or “get on with it.”
Yet the anxiety, fear, or self-doubt keeps returning.
That’s because most struggles aren’t caused by a lack of effort — they’re caused by a nervous system that’s been under pressure for too long.
Healing doesn’t happen through force.
It happens through:
Feeling safe
Feeling understood
Learning compassion instead of criticism
Having space to be fully yourself
And that’s something you don’t have to do alone 🌿
What Therapy Looks Like at Very Therapy 💬
At Very Therapy, I don’t see broken people.
I see people who’ve adapted, survived, and coped in the best ways they could at the time.
Therapy with me is:
Warm, professional and non-judgemental
Grounded in experience and evidence
Challenging where needed and in a manageable way
Always paced around you
We don’t rush your story. We don’t push you beyond what feels safe. And we don’t expect you to be anything other than human.
Whether you’re struggling with anxiety, trauma, phobias, loss, addiction or feeling disconnected from yourself — there is a way forward ✨
You Don’t Need to Be “Ready” to Start 🌱
One of the biggest myths about therapy is that you need to be ready, confident, or sure.
You don’t.
You just need a small willingness to begin.
You can come feeling:
Unsure
Emotional
Sceptical
Tired
Afraid
Therapy meets you where you are — not where you think you should be.
A Gentle Invitation 💛
If something in this blog resonated, that’s not a coincidence.
Maybe a part of you is tired of fighting yourself. Maybe you’re ready for support that feels safe, real, and human.
You don’t have to prove you’re worthy of help.
You already are.
If you’d like to explore working together, you’re warmly welcome to book a session.
👉 Visit www.verytherapy.com to begin
I’d be honoured to support you.
— Roseanna
Senior Accredited Counsellor specialising in complex conditions, long-term anxiety, trauma, phobias, loss and addictions — supporting adults and children aged 8+.
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